This seems like such good advice:
“View your life with kindsight. Stop beating yourself up about things from your past. Instead of slapping your forehead and asking, ‘What was I thinking,’ breathe and ask yourself the kinder question, ‘What was I learning?'” ~Karen Salmansohn
……and this just rings so true:
“If you are never scared, embarrassed, or hurt, it means you never take chances.” ~Julia Soul
….and not only does it mean you never take chances but it might mean you never even attempt to accomplish much at all — the more you do, the more opportunities there are for mistakes. Mistakes are inevitable and that’s just a metaphysical reality. I tend to beat myself up over any little mistake, but in any life, no matter how conscientious we are, there are those moments of imperfection and you just have to say uh-oh and move on. Apologize or rationalize or over-analyze, and maybe even fix it, but move on. And recognize and be grateful when they are little mistakes; keep a perspective – if time or money or a good night’s sleep can fix it, hot-diggity. Sometimes I’m tempted to just withdraw so I can avoid the oops factor. It’s kind of brave to keep on, because you put yourself out there–on the line. But if you don’t take the risks involved in taking on challenges, you also don’t get the opportunity to make a contribution or to receive the particular satisfaction of hard work.
It is an ill-conceived illusion that there is someone out there who will get the job done without ever missing a beat….there may be better, there may be worse but there will not be a flawless one. The beats that are missed may be different, but missed beats there will be.
Engage, join the fray, participate — life calls us in.